I closed my eyes and took a deep breath, experimenting. There was no pain in my chest. I took another and became even more aware, as if waking up from a dream. Then I felt a familiar touch. When I opened my eyes, Tamara was right next to me. She was real, too; I could feel her. She was alive. I could feel her familiar vibration even more powerfully than her physical presence.
She looked the same as she always had, beautiful, but now I could feel her presence at a deeper level than ever before. Beyond how she looked, I was experiencing everything about the essence and power of her soul.
However, she was crying and upset.
Why were we here?
Was the crash a bad dream, or had I died? Had we both...
By April C Brader
Board Eligible Acupuncturist and Traditional Chinese Medicine Herbalist
The tidal wave of grief can be profound and overwhelming. It often comes without warning, plunging us into the depths of the psychic abyss.
Grief is the universal equalizer as everyone we know--our entire family, our beloved friends and cherished pets-- will one day die. Grief is also a profound motivator. It compels us to examine our soul beliefs. It rocks us to our core and opens the door to emotional, mental and spiritual transformation and even healing.
When I was a student in a graduate course on thanatology, the study of death and dying, our professor invited several parents who belonged to a support group for parents who lost children. One toddler died of a rare heart defect, another adolescent died of cancer, one was killed in a terrible accident at home and the last child was tragically murdered.
The guests spoke about the loss of their child with such emotional candor and intense, palpable grief that as they shared their stories, the entire class of graduate students in class were openly...