Of course, when you’re in that in-between zone – what the Tibetans call a “bardo” – after your life is over but before you’ve died, you have plenty of time to think – to ruminate and to wonder what will happen to you when you finally cross that threshold and enter the house of death.
Oh, perhaps before I follow that train of thought, I guess I should clarify what I meant when I wrote that line about my life being over. Obviously, either I’m still here or a ghost is writing this. What I meant was that the really active part of my life has finished – no more rapturous love affairs, exciting adventures, extensive travels, doing research, writing books, and so forth – all the activities that I enjoyed so much during my life until recent years. Yes, I still have my quieter pleasures, as I have written, but mostly I am just waiting – waiting to die. And can’t help speculating what will happen once I do.
Lately, I have been reading a little philosophy, not about life and death matters, but in doing so, it has occurred to me that so many of the world’s great thinkers are professed atheists and are convinced that when we die, that’s it. Poof! Death brings annihilation to our individual personalities and to all consciousness. We enter into a sleep from which we never awaken.
Let’s consider this roster of the world’s greatest minds who hold this view. There’s Friedrich Nietzsche, of course, who became the most influential philosopher of...
Do our brains communicate with one another? And how?
Perhaps I should rephrase that by saying, and how!!!
Of course we communicate through our brains which interpret our senses. That’s how we see, smell, hear, taste and feel. But I am talking about a sixth sense, one in which information is passed silently from brain to brain, as in extrasensory perception or during shared-death experiences. I have seen this form of communication in my own life and in the lives of others, and can tell you that it happens. Brains can communicate with one another although I truly don’t know if it is brains that do this --or that thing known as the mind. Or. . . .?
In my own life, I experienced this brain communication when my mother died. And although it wasn’t a direct communication with her, it was communication through another person. Here’s what happened:
About 30 minutes before my mother died, I received a telephone call from Vernon Neppe, MD, the then director of neuropharmacology at University of Washington. I had once worked on a book project with Neppe about his fascinating research on déjà vu, but had not communicated with him for several years, so this call was no more expected than what he had to say.
“Something strange happened this morning,” he said, sounding quizzical. “I was reading the newspaper and a voice came to me that said, ‘Call Paul Perry.’ I ignored it and a few minutes later it happened again, ‘Call Paul Perry.’ So here I am. What’s going on?”
Do you have a question you would like to ask? My guests, columnists, and I are all glad to answer your questions. This month we are featuring Dr. Melvin Morse who has researched pediatric NDEs and the science of intuition.
Actually, the idea of *never* ceasing to exist, ever, not after a million billion trillion quadrillion quintillion etc etc years, sounds Hellish to me. What's the endgame here? Are we supposed to merge back with the Creator, or...?
Melvin and I decided to answer your question together in this short video. Thank you so much for asking it!
I have a question about the emotional state of people after they die and are in the afterlife. Do those who have passed on, forgive people whom they believe have committed real and/or imagined acts against them?
I’m asking this because I’ve had family members pass away who were always upset with other family for various and sundry slights or actions they believed were committed against them. I want to believe that those family are at peace now, having forgotten or forgiven others. Also, it would give me peace to know they are happy.
Holly Fox Vellekoop, MSN
My impression is that the life review in the experience of the dying is a sort of clearing process where all that gets sorted out and understood at another level. So, in sum, I don’t think people take grudges into the next life as they undergo a life review first.
The life review process changes the...
[I actually wrote this last spring after my near near-death experience with the flu. But since another flu season will soon be upon us, perhaps this cautionary tale is timely after all. Its message is: Don’t fool around with the flu this year, particularly if you are of an age.]
I might have been a tad too glib when in the first installment of what clearly will be a terminal series having to do with my personal terminus, I observed that at least for me waiting to die was rather boring. [I was also too glib about writing off Tiger Woods; I guess I shoulda known better. O me of little faith…]
After this winter, I have had cause to change my mind. For a while there, I thought it might be more of a matter of life or death. I found myself thinking of the line Othello sings toward the end of Verdi’s opera as he contemplates his own death: “Ecco la fine del mio camin.” Colloquially, “This is the end of the line for me.”
You see, I was one of the millions who caught the flu bug or, rather, it caught me. And held me tight for a while in what seemed to be its death-like grip. It was really bad for a week or ten days there – it’s hard to remember how long. Even now, five weeks to the day after becoming sick, I am still hawking and spitting up gobs of sputum, and my voice now resembles that of your nearby frog. There were times when I considered whether the first piece I wrote in the series might well turn out to be my epitaph. And I admit there were moments, or...
by Lisa Smartt
"...the NDE may act like a benign virus, and by exposing yourself to it, you can catch it; that is, you can experience some of the same benefits as do those who actually have the NDE themselves."
Dr. Kenneth Ring Lessons from the Light p.5
As many of you know, I am the co-founder with Raymond Moody of The University of Heaven and The Final Words Project, an informal investigation into people’s last words. If you had told me ten years ago that I would be working with Raymond Moody to research final words, near-death, shared-death and after-death experiences, I would have looked at you cross-eyed. What? Who? Huh?
Now let me give you a quick before and after:
Before: You know that person on an airplane who is pale white and clutching at the safety belt...and the plane has not even taken off yet? That was me a decade ago before doing this research.
After: Surprised by my own comfort in the clouds, I know that when my time is here, I will be ushered to a place of peace and familiar safety. If I am in an airplane when it happens, I will be even closer to the heavens.
Before I began final words research, I spent most of my time on a plane white-knuckling my way through the friendly skies. Matter of fact, I white-knuckled my way through much of my life. However, then six years ago, after the death of my father, I immersed myself in better understanding what happens when we die through gathering and analyzing people’s final words. That work led me to read everything I could about near-death experiences.
I caught the...
By Paul Perry
There is no way to express the debt of gratitude I have for Raymond Moody, MD, PhD. And that includes all the initials that follow his name. As a medical doctor he has diagnosed my ailments or explained those of others in a simple, patient and complete way that I wish existed in all who practice his profession.
As a PhD in philosophy, Raymond has explained the fine points of the near-death experience so clearly and completely that I have been able to write five books with him (fifteen in total) on the lively subjects contained in the world of near-death studies. Sometimes when I need company I will put on an audio tape from the good doctor and listen again to what he had to say about Greek philosophy, some odd-ball mental disease or, oh yes, our work, which is why I was recording him to begin with.
Being around Raymond is always educational and never confrontational. He’s the perfect teacher and most of all, the perfect friend.
And he’s wacky. He not only wanted to be a comedian, he has even taken the stage to entertain his colleagues, exploring the mysterious world of laughter one joke at a time. And yes, he has a comedy record album too, an item so extinct that he doesn’t even have a copy. If you have one let me know so I can convince him to reissue it. After all, aside from national politics, there isn’t enough humor in this world.
I first met Raymond through our mutual book agent, Nat Sobel. Nat had ushered Life After Life through a difficult publishing process, a time when most publishers would not publish a book about near-death...
Today is one of the most exciting days of my 74 years because I have great news to share:
The University of Heaven has launched...and we are delighted that you are a part.
The University of Heaven offers paid and complimentary opportunities for exploring near-death, shared-death and after-death research through live events and pre-recorded courses with those at the leading edge of consciousness studies.
On OCTOBER 30 7-8 pm ET, I will be presenting I’M CONVINCED a free webinar that explores the rational reasons and astonishing accounts that led to my only recently conceding: Indeed, consciousness survives.
Register here for I’m Convinced to find out more about the five-decade journey that has led me to conclude that there is an afterlife.
On November 13th at 7 pm ET, our six-month seminar series, The NDE Consciousness Forum, launches with our first forum The Mindful Universe with Eben Alexander and Karen Newell. Other forums will feature Jeffery Olsen, Dr. Jeff O’Driscoll, Dr. Melvin Morse, Kevin Braheny Fortune of Hearts of Space, Dr. Tony Cicoria, Dr. Mary Neal and Dr. Rachel Harris.
For much of my life, I have been the subject of interviews across the world. And now, I look forward, to being the one asking the questions to some of the world's most interesting and well-informed researchers and thinkers in the area of consciousness studies. Join me for interviews and interactive experiences with these leading-edge thinkers at the frontiers of spirituality and science.
Do you have a book idea but...
By April C. Brader , D.O.M.
Doctor of Oriental Medicine, Acupuncturist, and Herbalist
Each spiritual healing tradition from around the world has its own unique herbs to help individuals manage grief.
In traditional Chinese medicine, we usually use a comprehensive herbal formula consisting of several herbs based upon our ancient manuals (materia medica) and/or patient’s presentation, manifestations and symptoms. Some of the potential herbs we use in an herbal formula for the treatment of grief may include:
By April C. Brader, D.O.M.
Doctor of Oriental Medicine, Acupuncturist, and Herbalist
The tidal wave of grief can be profound and overwhelming. It often comes without warning, plunging us into the depths of the psychic abyss.
Grief is the universal equalizer as everyone we know--our entire family, our beloved friends and cherished pets-- will one day die. Grief is also a profound motivator. It compels us to examine our soul beliefs. It rocks us to our core and opens the door to emotional, mental and spiritual transformation and even healing.
When I was a student in a graduate course on thanatology, the study of death and dying, our professor invited several parents who belonged to a support group for parents who lost children. One toddler died of a rare heart defect, another adolescent died of cancer, one was killed in a terrible accident at home and the last child was tragically murdered.
The guests spoke about the loss of their child with such emotional candor and intense, palpable grief that as they shared their stories, the entire class of graduate students in class were openly weeping.
The bright realization that must come before death will be worth all the boredom of living. Ned Rorem
What’s it like, waiting to die? Of course, it’s different for everyone. I can only say what it’s like for me. On the whole, it’s rather boring.
Don’t get me wrong. I still have many pleasures in life and – knock on silicon – I’m lucky not to be suffering from any fatal illness, though if I were, that would certainly add some drama in my life. I could then follow the example of the poet Ted Rosenthal, who after contracting leukemia, joyfully called his friends and said, “Guess what’s happened to me!” Well, no thanks. I’ll take my boring life any day and intone a hymn of gratitude every morning I wake up with only the...